Love Lessons – One

Love LipsI’m one of those single women whose eye gets frequently caught by headlines like: “How To Tell If He’s Into You,” or “Where To Meet Him,” or “Girl, GET YOUR MAN!  (Ok, I made the last one up, but it would’ve gotten my attention!)  I have a few books about love and relationships, subscribe to relationship blogs, receive daily tidbits of info from dating coaches who always have that special offer that is about to expire in 24 hours and will never be offered again at that ridiculously low price!  I’ve read that I shouldn’t call first, it’s ok to call first; never accept a text date, it’s fine to accept the text date; let him chase me, don’t make him chase but offer a challenge – whew!  Sometimes the streams of advice cross one another and other times they meet up.  From Patti, David, Steve, and Marni, to Cosmo, I-Village, and Essence… The list goes on and on.  So, I decided to take a few pages from many sources and put the advice to the test.  A little from here, a little from there – can’t go wrong, right?  First up, online dating Continue reading

On Letting Go….

Over the weekend I said goodbye to my son as he moved on to his transfer years at Biola University. During the build up to the weekend, I was filled with mixed emotions; but they were mostly centered around practical impact of his leaving.

I started thinking about what would I do with his room (of course I’d already made plans to convert it into some space that would be more useful for me). I began realizing that he would no longer be here to help with transporting his 16-year old sister to or from somewhere, nor would he be the adult in the house while I did X,Y, or Z activity. He wouldn’t be here to take out the trash or contribute to other chores that he shared with his sister and me. I thought about those little irritations that would be alleviated by his absence – like reminding him not to put his head on the white chairs; asking that he stop hanging his pull-up bar on the door frame because it caused dents in the wood; or asking him to keep his late-night television noise down while I was tried to Continue reading